Can Men And Women Just Be Friends | Relationships

Friends holding hand and playing by the water
Can the opposite sex just be friends?

Can Men And Women Just Be Friends

Have you ever wondered if men and women could be friends without desiring something more? I know people have various opinions on this subject, but let's take a deeper look into it together. Will sex and an attraction to the other person eventually be a part of the equation? Can men women have a platonic relationship?

Friends, Inveigle Magazine
Can Men and Women just be friends?

Having a friend of the opposite sex while in a relationship

Should a man or woman have a best friend other than their companion? Do you believe it can be accomplished without causing problems in the relationship? Better yet! No matter what the sex of the person is, wouldn't you like your mate to be your best friend? I'm not saying they can't do anything without you, but don't you desire them to enjoy spending quality time playing and traveling with you. Let's be honest. It's just a conversation between me, you, and the rest of the world.

In a recent survey by Inveigle magazine
"82% of the people said, men and women, can just be friends when they are already in a committed relationship with someone else?" 

According to Womens health, Christie Hartman, Ph.D., a Denver-based dating expert, and behavioral scientist, and the author has close male friends and she's married. She stated,

“ There can't be any real attraction between the two people. It gets weird when there's actual or suspected attraction—even if one-sided—if the partner is excluded, or if the partner is made to feel less important or less of a priority in any way.”

This brings us to that old so famous question, Are people monogamous or promiscuous.? It has a lot to do with how a person perceives the idea of their mate having a friendship with a person of the opposite sex. 

If you feel a person would be monogamous no matter the circumstance, it wouldn't matter about the friendship because your confidence is high enough to help sustain the relationship. 

But there is a natural tendency to have a slight amount of jealousy that can trigger a response of not wanting your mate to have a best friend of the opposite sex. We tend to go against it, as we think about various things in life; such as non-verbal cues that can create instant attractions that may lead to friends with benefits, affairs, and much more.

Friends showing body language
Non- Verbal Cues

Here are a few Non-verbal cues:

  • Body Language - Make sure not to have your body leaning in to close to the other person. Body languages help people give clues to what they are feeling or thinking. Body language is an important form of communication that sometimes happens without even thinking about it. So you have to be careful of the impression you give your friend unless you intentionally want it to lead somewhere.
Body language
Body language can speak volumes
  • Eye Contact - Eye contact can express more than words; meanwhile, building up the anticipation of what it would be like to be together in a romantic situation. Be careful not to fall into a seductive trap for your friend. You know you've seen that person who looked at you from across the room with seductive eyes that will make you want to melt. The chemistry is hot and it can get you in a situation if you're not careful. 
  • Voice Tonality - How you speak to someone can begin to turn them on. If you have a sexy voice the friend may begin to become intrigued with you. After all, it's not what you say, but how you say it! If you talk to your friend better than your significant other, that can be a problem.
  • Touch - You have to be careful with the way you touch a person. It can release powerful sex hormones. Don't start anything, won't be anything! In other words, keep your hands to yourself.

Some relationships start off as friendships:

Some relationships start off as platonic friends having fun together and enjoying each other's company. Friends tend to do things that benefit each other because they have each other's best interests at heart. Friendship can bring you joy, support, and disappointment. Well, true friends do anyway.

To thrive in this world you have to have remarkable people in your life which you can mutually trust. Have you ever set down to contemplate what you want out of your friendship?  

In a friendship, you need to learn what the other person desires out of the friendship without being selfish. When you have two people of the opposite sex, being emotionally attached to each other there is a chance of it blossoming into more.

In some cases, this is what makes it so easy for people to cross the line from friendship to dating and a relationship. Think about it! If a person is so close to you that you can confide in them, laugh with them, and know their desires, Isn't that a beneficial relationship? It can be a good thing; as well as, a bad situation.

Friends laughing
Friends laughing together

The bad part is one person may take advantage of the situation without giving thought to the consequences. The emotional trauma it can cause if you lose a dependable friend trying to build an affectionate relationship can leave you to deal with the consequences by yourself. Who's going to comfort you during the breakup, if it was your friend that hurt you?


On the other hand, you have had many successful relationships start as a friendship. That friend that has been there for you through the thick and thin may make you the ultimate significant other. A positive is you have already built some great memories together.

According to  Daily Mail

"In a survey by the University of Wisconsin, 88 sets of young male and female friends were asked to rate their attraction to each other in a confidential questionnaire.
It found that men — whether attached or single — were more likely to be attracted to their female friends and want to go on a date with them than the other way around."
Therefore, you have to weigh your options and decide if it's worth it.

Take a look at this video of how these friends think they know what the other wants.

Is there a right or wrong answer?

 We are attracted to people that have qualities we admire. You know, that person that makes you laugh and smile all day long without arguing. Loyalty is an important factor in a relationship. Therefore, even if two people are friends, can they avoid letting it go any further if they have self-control? 

There is a difference between a friendship in which they are hanging out and a friendship where they just laugh together at work or something of that nature. Does that friend know your mate and get along with them? Well, I don't know what to tell you, because there is no right or wrong answer, because everyone has to make that decision for themselves, but take a look at this video.

What is your opinion? Can men and women just be friends?

Author on Inveigle Magazine

Author: Arica  Green (Arica G) is the Founder and Editor of  Inveigle Magazine. She created a premiere Lifestyle, Fashion, and Beauty Magazine to entice you towards positive change and increase the quality of life. With Arica's love for writing and informing the Universe about a variety of topics, Inveigle Magazine was born. Follow us @ Inveiglemagazi1 & on FB . View more articles by Arica Green

Subscribe to Inveigle Magazine Article Updates by Email

Follow us on Twitter & on FB

Inveigle Magazine

Arica G

Arica G. is the founder and Editor In Chief of Inveigle Magazine and Inveigle Magazine Podcast.

Previous Post Next Post