Thursday, August 15, 2019





If you are in an abusive relationship, you owe it to yourself to end it. Ending a relationship can be difficult for several reasons. Some might say, "Why won't she/he just leave?"  It's easy to judge without fully understanding what a person is going through. What someone experiences behind closed doors could be nightmarish.

Imagine being isolated from friends and loved ones; experiencing the feeling of loneliness, and hopelessness.  Quickly feeling of embarrassment; shame and guilt are fueled by low self-esteem and a negative self-concept.  You are a  prisoner of your mind tormented by your every thought," everyone knows, but no one raises a hand to help." You can almost feel the whispers hitting you against your ears," She/he is dumb for putting up with that treatment." Often people who are in abusive relationships experience feeling of guilt, embarrassment, humiliation, fear, and uncertainty.

There are various forms of abuse.

Physical abuse to the victim by the abuser does not always occur in cases of abuse. If you feel unsafe, afraid, or controlled by your significant other, then you are most likely in an abusive relationship.

1) Sexual abuse victims suffer in silence as the abuser repeatedly raps them or force them into a life of prostitution.  
2) Physical abuse may include hitting, kicking, in a nutshell, inflicting physical harm to another. 
3) Psychological abuse could take the form of name-calling, insults, threats, your partner flirting openly with others while your present. 

Psychological abuse could take the form of name-calling, insults.

4) Controlling often encompass being restricted from needed resources; for example, little or no access to funds, inability to leave and return home, and denial of the use of transportation.

You should treat others with dignity and respect. Some people will observe abuse and neglect and will turn a blind eye toward the misdeed.  People, if you know of someone who is living under such conditions, call someone who can help them. If you need immediate help call #911, or your local emergency service. There is also a National Domestic violence hotline whose # is 1-800-799-7233.

Domestic violence
Domestic violence

There are several reasons why a person might not leave an abusive relationship.  

  1. Did you realize that some people think that abuse is normal? Gender role identification can have an impact on what one considers normal or not rational. Cultural differences can influence what one believes to be a healthy or non-healthy relationship. Therefore, some people may not realize that the relationship that they are in is unhealthy.
  2. Individuals in abusive Relationships may not leave due to financial reasons or lack of resources.  
  3. Because of their belief system, for example, cultural and religious.
  4. Because of Fear
  5. The person feels that the relationship is normal because they know not what a healthy relationship looks like.

I can’t stress this enough! If you or someone you know are in an abusive relationship get help. Call a family member or a friend you can trust. 

But, hold on wait a minute! How do you know if someone is in an abusive relationship? He/she doesn’t say anything, but you sense something is wrong.

1) Unexplained bruises could be a telltale sign of abuse. 
2) Have you ever notice a person who talks down to their partner? For example, He / She is often sarcastic. Their significant other uses subtle put-downs aimed at the other.  
3) Sometimes it's not what a person says verbally, but it's their body language that may tip you off that something is wrong.
4) Your friend, or relative's behavior, or mood has changed dramatically could be a sign that they are in an abusive relationship. 

Get the help you need!! The abuse is not going to stop on its own, so get help and fast. 

It is a mistake to think that the abuse will cease on its own; therefore, seek help.

Individual or family counseling could be your solution. Remember getting a divorce or ending unsatisfying, and abusive relationships do not make you a failure.   

Author: Gregory M. Green is the author of various topics in the Social Sciences section of Inveigle MagazineHe writes on informative topics that bring awareness to the world. We are so pleased to have him as a part of Inveigle Magazine's Team. Follow us @Inveiglemagazi1. Follow me on LinkedIn. 

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