Tuesday, November 9, 2021

It's Not all Sandcastles: Tips to Keep Things Fresh in Long-term Marriages

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Keeping the marriage strong for many years.


Tips to Keep Things Fresh in Long-term Marriages

A long-term marriage with the same person can be wonderful, but it takes work to keep things fresh. When you have been married for years, sometimes it feels like the spark has fizzled out. That is very normal! But how do you reignite that spark?

This blog post will talk about how people can revive that special feeling they once had. So read on if you are looking to find ways to keep things fresh in long-term marriages!


Don't Forget Fun Dates

Old-fashioned date nights will never lose their charm! They are essential for all marriages, even when you've been together for decades! Plan at least one or two dates outside of your house each month and remember to have fun. Of course, you can also stay in and cook dinner together. It is one of the most mentally and physically stimulating  IADLs and ADLs for older couples!

Dates will allow you to reconnect and keep your marriage fresh. Also, don't be afraid to try new things, even if it is scary. This can help you break out of your comfort zone and find a new activity that you both love!

Prioritize Intimacy

Sometimes when you get older and have been married for a long time, you can get distant from your spouse. It can cause a rift in your relationship. So be sure to prioritize intimacy and make time for each other. Even if it means you have to cut out a few things from your routine!

Give each other a hug or kiss every day. Never underestimate the impact of physical touch and intimacy in long-lasting relationships. It is one of the key factors in keeping the spark going.

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Don't underestimate the impact of intimacy


Create a Bucket List Together

This is something that can be done with children as well to create memories they will treasure for life. There is no better way to bring the family closer and have some fun together than making a bucket list. It is another fantastic way to keep things fresh in long-term marriages!

This could include trips, activities, or other things that you always wanted to do but never got around to. For example, visit that city or country you always wanted to visit or learn the piano together! Or anything that you've always wanted to do but never had the time because you were so immersed in your careers. You will feel closer together and have a list of memories that you may not have created otherwise!

Don't Be Afraid to Get Cheesy!

Say cheesy things to one another now and then! Do not shy away from the occasional I love yous and flowers. These simple gestures make your significant other feel loved and appreciated. It is human nature to take the little things for granted and regret them later on. So do not wait until you are too old or sick before letting each other know how much they mean to you!

Have a Life Outside Your Marriage

The benefits of having a life outside your marriage extend beyond the joy it brings to you. That precious alone-time with personal passions and interests stokes a healthy fire within you. They also increase closeness between you and your partner.

Go out with friends separately, spend some time away from each other. This is key to keeping things fresh and not feeling suffocated in the relationship. It is never too late or early to start enjoying life again together!

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Enjoy time with friends that support your relationship


Understand and Embrace Conflicts

In long-term marriages, it is expected that things will not go smoothly all the time. There will be disagreements and conflicts. But these conflicts in your marriage are also opportunities for you to learn how to deal with difficult emotions and situations. It is essential that both of you take responsibility and try not to blame each other. Instead, try to understand where they are coming from.

Do not fester it inside to the point it becomes unfixable. Accept the fact that there will be fights in your marriage and you should expect them. This is because they are inevitable and very natural! This way, you will be prepared to deal with them when they happen. Also, that will give a better understanding of your partner's point of view.

Always Communicate

Communication is extremely vital for maintaining a healthy relationship. Communication should be open and honest, but it can also have a playful edge to it! Remember that you don't always need to talk about the big things in your life. Sometimes all you want is someone who will listen when you're having a bad day.

So make sure you feel comfortable talking about anything and everything with your spouse. It is also essential to talk about your future together - what you want and how you plan on getting there. This will help set goals, expectations and make both of you feel like a team. Setting these goals can be as simple or complex as you need them to be.

Remember that You Are a Team

The most important thing is always to remember that you're a team. It is easy to feel suffocated in long-term marriages. But in reality, most of the time your partner is on your side and wants what is best for you. So when both of you come at any problem with this mindset, it will be easier for each person to try understanding the other one and find a solution.

If you want to keep things fresh in long-term marriages, then it is important that both of you are committed to making an effort for each other!

The bottom line is, marriage is not a cakewalk and one should not expect it to be either. Both partners in the marriage must understand how it should operate but also not be afraid to seek out change as time goes on.

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Have your happily ever after

Make sure you enjoy the little things and appreciate the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with. No one can guarantee that things will be perfect, but one can learn how to make them good. Make it last by working with each other - not against one another!

So, are you ready to do what it takes to have your happily ever after?


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