What is real Love

What is real Love

What is real Love

Love is a blessing and something we all look forward to experiencing throughout life with family, friends, and our significant other. It is not always peaches and cream, but it is worth the effort to achieve a healthy and successful relationship with someone special. Even though we may encounter some type of heartbreak at some point and time in our life, love can still be a motivator to accomplish our goals  and strive to be the best person we can be. We can love our spouse, children, family, and friends without even thinking about it. We are not immune to feeling compassion for someone we care about. We can even have a sort of love for people we don't know by having empathy for the things they are going through in life.


Have you ever wish you didn't fall in love with someone because of the heartbreak and pain they caused? Have you ever just not wanted to get out of bed because you were slipping into depression because of relationship problems? We all have been through some things, but the worst thing to do is give up. After all, how can you find the love of your life if you never leave the house? Well, I know we have technology with these latest social media and dating sites. All I can say is proceed with caution. Be careful! Check them out before you just jump into that relationship, because there can be some dangerous people out there. I surely don't want anything bad to happen to you because I care for your safety. Yes, I care because that is what compassion is all about.

Different forms of Love

Loving someone can come in many shapes and forms.

• Love is when you care for someone other than yourself.
• Love is a holding a person in positive unconditional regard in spite of their mistakes or faults.
• Love is putting another person's needs before your wants.
• Love is altruism - selfless concerns for someone else well-being.

So when you decide to say you love someone, ask yourself, "Do you have their best interest at heart or do you just like what it will accomplish in your life?" The problem with today's society is we can be a bit selfish at times. We want what we want right then an there no matter what. We should aim to think about how our decision affects not only ourselves but others as well.

Types of Love

Types of love:

• Eros - Passionate or sexual love.
• Philia - Affectionate regards, close friendship or brotherly love.
• Storge - Love between parents and their children . It is familial love.
• Agape - Is the love for strangers, God, and nature. It is a universal love. It is also thought of as charity by Christians. It has unselfish concerns for others which is altruism.
• Ludus - They are more focused on the short term. It can be uncommitted love focused on having fun. They are usually casual relationships.
• Pragma -  This love is founded on logic. It focuses on whether a mate will share their goals, and meet their financial or social needs.
• Philautia - Self-love

Love in a Relationship

We all love to be in a relationship that is continually evolving into mutual kindness and love. A bond where we have compassion for each other. We desire the type of love where one is not using the other solely for their own benefit without giving anything back in return. What I mean by that is the relationship should be built on a mutual understanding of what the two individuals desire out of their relationship.

A relationship should be built on love and kindness. Who wants to be with someone who doesn't have the other ones best interest at heart? 

4 Stages of love

• Sexual Attraction Love - Your body is excited by certain touches.
• Romantic Love - We feel good with the candlelight dinners, flowers, and etc.
• Intellectual Decision Love - The sex may not be as great, but you use your brain to decide whether you stay together.
• Mature companion love - More security, more comfort.

Author: Arica Hart (Arica G) is Founder and Editor of  Inveigle Magazine. She created a premiere Lifestyle, Fashion & Beauty Magazine to entice you towards positive change and increase the quality of life. With Arica's love for writing and informing the Universe about a variety of topics, Inveigle Magazine was born. Follow us on Twitter & on FB. View more articles by Arica Hart

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